Jul 18, 2016
Paul Cox joins our regular hosts for a discussion about how to
balance family life and church life. We get into
productivity, priorities, and time management.
Parenting Fail Segment
Manderson - Car Ride back from Crayola
Stout - been short this week with
Bevil - Scanning & Constant Noise; I’ve Been
Paul - I had a wonderful Dad who’s now with the
Lord. I inherited from him a passionate desire to keep the house
clean. One afternoon after work, I came home to find the house
disheveled. I took it out on my boys even whispering some passive
aggressive statement under my breath. Both boys helped me clean and
they slinked up the stairs.
Topic of the Week: Finding Balance in Life &
Productive Pastor & Isaac
Hopper Episode (Productive
Pastor Episode 42: Parenting, Productivity, and Presence with Isaac
- Bevil’s mentor: “I tried everything to be a
successful pastor, but I wasn’t a successful person.” God, Spouse,
Kids, Then Ministry
what was your big aha moment(s)? Mind if I rewind and take us back
to Spain. Dawn and I work for FamilyLife in Little Rock and that
journey began in 2008. Dawn and I were residential Missionaries
living in Madrid, no kids, learning language and loving ministry.
But, then two boys come along. But something happened in our 7th
year there. Jesus stopped being my Lord and Saviour and became my
boss, in my mind. I was working for Him but not spending time with
Him and I was slowly falling out of love with Him. I was
sacrificing Dawn on the altar of ministry, and she was paying a
huge price. Finish story here if there’s time.
- Manderson- Still developing this with the help
of my wife and kids, but also professionals and other pastors.
Past episodes: Resets
do you know you need to reset?
I liked what you said about “how do you find balance when you’re
unbalanced”. Bevil, I think what I meant by the “unbalanced”
comment is that we’re all a mess. I’m a mess. My daily prayer to
the Lord is always, “Lord, I’m a mess, but thankfully, I’m
Your mess. As men, we need to recognize that we
can’t, but He can. We’ve been given this incredible privilege of
leading our wives under the mutual submission of Christ. We’ve been
given the privilege of leading our family team. Many of us are
leading teams in our professions. We’re homeowners. I can’t fix
anything, and that causes stress. There are all these demands, and
it can get overwhelming. Sometimes Dawn and I feel like we’re
living in an episode of “Little House on the Freeway”. Remember
that show? For me, the acknowledgement of my messiness, and that I
can’t do everything leads me to this incredible dependency upon the
What have we each found works
for us to get balance?
Parenting Win Segment
Manderson - Crayola Factory with Family
Stout - kindergarten sign up
Bevil - Soccer in Front Yard with Sophie & Emma
Paul - Boys returned from Dallas with their aunts,
and that night I spent time on the floor listening to their stories
and playing with Legos on the floor. I took time.